STRAY GIRLS and LADIES

 Good afternoon!

*Please forgive the grammatical errors. 

I'm learning about how to write my grant proposal for my nonprofit charity STRAY GIRLS WITH CATS. STRAY GIRLS for short. It's my hill and my ministry project to assist single women with no children land back on their feet after an emergency. 

Housing

Food pantry

Healthcare

GED

trade school

Work placement   

Home essential care packages

Mobility

Home economics

(etc.)

All the benefits the government is more than happy to send to women who have children but turn their backs on women without children. I can't even begin to tell you how frustrating it was during Covid to be told I wasn't a priority time and time again because I don't have children, or a substance abuse problem, or wasn't recently released from prison. People who were found guilty of committing a crime, who then served time in prison, have more priority over a law-abiding woman with no children. 

I mean yes help women reenter society but help ALL WOMEN.

Single women need help too. The whole attitude of, "Just get married" is appalling. Being asked if I have children when seeking financial aid during Covid was insulting and appalling. "Just get married" is the governments answer. "You chose not to have children. We can't help you" is also appalling. I literally survived off of the generosity and kindness of my friends but every week I had no idea how I was going to live day to day, AND I had an ischemic stroke during that time. I had a stroke right in the middle of Covid. The woman assigned to my disability case was so pleased with herself as she sing-songed how she denied a woman who became paralyzed on one side of her body after her stroke, informing me that my chances of receiving disability was unlikely. Not surprising she turned me down. Gee, government worker Kathy. Thanks. I'm so "glad" I've been paying disability and social security out of my paychecks since I was sixteen years old. 

I'm at the point where I think social security should just pay everyone out and then stop taking social security out of our paychecks. Seriously. 

Do I think the government will give me a grant for my charity, no. Not the government. But I'm going to apply everywhere anyway including them. I want to be able to tell single women of America what their government truly thinks of them and to remember that especially come next election period.

Why STRAY GIRLS with cats. Because I also like cats. Those cats are emotional support systems, and they deserve homes also. I hope if I can get my charity off the ground other STRAY GIRLS will pop up. STRAY GIRLS with dogs and STRAY GIRLS with birds. 

Being a single woman without children is every woman's right and she shouldn't be denied assistance during an emergency because she's a law-abiding citizen and not an illegal substance abuser and ex-convict.

Again, yes help women reenter society but help ALL WOMEN.

Single women with no children also need a roof over their heads and a safe stable place to live for the next six to twelve months while they put their lives back together. I want to help give that to them. The Covid pandemic ended only 19 months ago. Entire industries were put out of business. Many of the women I want to help need to learn a new trade and further their education. 

I don't care how many men think this is a fool's errand. The fact men think this way is exactly why I chose this good work. This is what ministry is. I'm a minister. This is literally my job description. If women don't help other women no one will. 

I think perhaps my going through what I went through during both big earthquakes, the pandemic, and my stroke, were chosen for me giving me strength to help other single women with no children.

I have strict requirements of course to be part of the program:

Proof of citizenship

No men

No criminal history

No drugs

No alcohol 

Curfew

Must be attending a learning annex and/or working

Must do chores around the house (once I get a house)

Once working must pay a small rental fee until they leave the house no later than 12 months after arriving

(etc.)

My interview process for temporary residency once I get a house will be strict. I will have no drama. None. Zero tolerance. No slamming things. No screaming. No temper tantrums. I despise temper tantrums and unnecessary loud noise. I won't have it. 

I once booked and Airbnb room for three weeks and left after four days. There was a young woman managing the house who just slammed things as hard as she could all day into the night. She thought she was entitled. She went through my things and helped herself with some of my belongings. Immature. I simply won't have it. Entitlement is incredibly ugly on women. Schools need to bring back mandatory classes of home economics and etiquette. If you fail either class, you repeat it. If you continue to fail, you don't graduate. Simple. The divide between proper young ladies and girls you know will end up pregnant or worse by the age of fourteen is drastic. There is no middle. It's either girls going on welfare or girls going to college and being a success and you know just by looking at them now at twelve years of age how these girls are going to end up. It's terribly unfortunate but a lot of these girls don't desire better. I don't get that. How do you not want better. I ran into four school aged girls yesterday morning who clearly had no interest attending school. Young black girls who could be something great if they wanted. I will never understand why they don't want it. Which is why I believe parents need to be punished right along with their kids when they break the law. If a kid kills someone then so did mom and dad and all three of them go to jail like Ethan Crumbley's parents. Ten years in prison. Bye Falicia!  

  

I suppose taking away women's rights is one way to force women to make better choices but, in all honesty, if women don't receive proper education and etiquette training when they're young they will understand even less as they get older. 

We must do better for these young girls. Schools especially. Maybe a mandatory dress code of skirts. Definitely bring back home economics and etiquette training. When I was married, I attended my husband's work Christmas parties which were always held in a nice lodge but at the first party no young ladies under thirty seated at our table knew the clam shaped cloth inside the empty water glass was the napkin until I pulled mine out and placed it my lap - then all the young ladies at our table immediately did the same. It was a little shocking. 

Gen X girls were at least taught how to behave while out in public. I fear girls today are not taught how to behave. Not at school. Not at home. Society needs to do better by these young girls. We need to raise more ladies. When these girls turn eighteen and go off into society, they'll at least have the education. Perhaps then, and this is just a thought, if we raised ladies less girls would be confused about their gender identity. 

For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.

Ephesians 2:10

God bless you.